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3月31日

Cruising at Sea

Sunday March 30

I woke up very late today – 10am. It felt good to spend so much time asleep. And, because all of today was dedicated to a sea day, there was no need to arise at my usual early hour.

After we ate breakfast from the buffet, I spent time lying in the sun by the Lotus pool. Unfortunately, I fell asleep (and I hadn’t applied sun block) so now I am very pink – the worst sun burn I have had in years. But the time on deck was so relaxing; I’m not surprised I fell asleep. In fact, I’m amazed that sort of thing doesn’t happen to me more often.  An espresso in the afternoon woke me up.  Soon after, we again met for a gay gathering. Today there were fewer people, but the formalities of first meeting were behind us, so our conversation was much more relaxed and enjoyable.  We stayed for about an hour and a half.

For dinner we met our tablemates in the main dining room. As is the norm for Princess, the second night is usually a formal dress night. Everyone looked terrific – especially the ladies in their sparkly black dresses. Our dining mates included a couple from Vancouver, WA, two lady friends from Atlanta, and a couple from Kentucky. Marcus, as usual, turned on the charm and soon the whole table was laughing and expressing their thanks for his wit and infectious laugh.

Post repast, we watched the stage show in the Princess Theatre. It was the strongest singing cast I have seen on a Princess ship. The audience was smaller than I expected, and less enthusiastic, but it was fun none the less.  However, by the time the show was over, my sunburn had given me a headache and I was very feeling tired. Marcus had wanted to go up to the disco, but instead he followed me back to the room. My burn had darkened and my skin felt very hot. After applying some lotion, I fell asleep with a cool wash cloth on my chest.

Tomorrow we dock in the first port: Ocho Rios, Jamaica. At most I will walk off the ship and stroll around town. Jamaica is a virulently anti-gay society. I don’t plan on spending any money because I don’t want to support the island’s economy.

3月30日

Bon Voyage

Saturday  March 29

What a beautiful day for a cruise! I slept an unusually solid 8 hours last night. Most of the time, my first night of rest on vacation is full of tossing and turning – but such was not the case for this beginning. The Marriott Renaissance is a very nice hotel with friendly people.  I had my usual Eggs Benedict for breakfast in the hotel restaurant this morning.

After picking Marcus up at the airport, we headed to Ft Lauderdale’s gay neighborhood, Wilton Manors. We ate a light lunch at a café called Rosie’s. It was very enjoyable, and dining on the outdoor patio was perfect.

We returned the car to the airport and took a shuttle to the pier.  There was a line for security screening, but no lines for registration. The Grand Princess looks the same as during my last cruise on her in February of 2007. We departed exactly on time. Marcus and I toasted his first voyage as we sailed out of the harbor with horns blowing, flags waving, and the band playing Caribbean music.

Soon after, we attended the traditional gay gathering that Princess always hosts on every cruise. We met about eight people. Three of us are teachers. That’s not unusual since teachers always travel at the same time, and I find professional compatriots on almost every cruise.

Dinner was in the quiet Painted Desert restaurant. Marcus established a bond with our waiter immediately by showing an interest in his home country (Poland) and language. Marcus is a whiz with languages and accents. Half our conversations are peppered with British, Jewish, and southern expressions. No conversation is ever boring. Imagine discussing politics or the economics of the US airline industry with a New York Jewish accent. It’s great fun.

The dinner was the best I’ve had in Princess’ steak house restaurant.  The menus on Princess have changed in the last few months, and I like the new emphasis on a broader selection of steaks, chops, chicken and fish. The side dishes are of higher quality than they used to be.

After dinner we went to the “Welcome Aboard” show and one of the cruise staff members saluted “John and Marcus” from the stage. She had hosted the gay gathering earlier in the evening.  I guess we impressed her.

Tomorrow I plan on doing very little. We will be at sea the whole day, and then the evening will be full with our first formal night of dining in the main dining room. Hopefully our dining mates will be enjoyable, as they usually are. There will also be the Captain’s Welcome cocktail party and the first big production show, Cinematastique – which I have seen before and enjoyed very much.

Bon Voyage!

 

3月29日

Another Cruise

Friday March 28
 
Gee....I travel a lot! I left bright (make that dark) and early for SeaTac at 4:30amThe cat was settled with food and water in the garage. The dogs had been left at a new and larger kennel the previous night. My taxi dropped me at the curb and I was through the check-in line in record time. I don't think I was at the counter for more than 60 seconds. Security was a breeze and the flight left on time. Seated in First Class, I enjoyed my usual bloody Mary and an omlet. God I love First Class!
 
Overall, my trip to Fort Lauderdale was smooth. I flew into the Miami airport this time, picked up a rental car (PT Cruiser, yuck!) and was at my hotel, the Marriott Renaisance Ft Lauderdale, by 7pm. Dinner was in my room after I raided the mini-bar for a scotch and soda. Marcus and I kept in touch throughout the day via text message. Below you can see one of the things that occupied my time during the evening. The pic below is me, if I were to appear on the simpsons.
simpson2I was asleep by 11:30.
3月25日

A New Milestone

Tomorrow marks the day that we officially begin closing Gene's estate. It will most likely take 10-14 days to finish all the paperwork, but the ending process has begun. Still, I don't feel like I have reached the end. There will be an estate tax return to file this coming summer. I have done little to clean out Gene's personal posessions at home. Emotionally, I am far from finished. Sometimes I feel like I will never be free of the sadness and regret. Will I ever be without him? Will I ever move on? Will I ever feel strong and self-confident and free from the chains of a love lost? I suspect the answers are all, yes. But I'm not there yet.
 
In three days I head out of town on my first cruise vacation without Gene. I'm looking forward to sailing again on my favorite ship - the Grand Princess. I'm looking forward to enjoying at least 4 scuba dives in Grand Cayman and Cozumel. The ship will also visit Jamaica and the Bahamas.
 
It is also with excitment and trepidation that I look forward to enjoying this cruise with Marcus. It will be his first cruising adventure, and I like the idea of sharing a mode of travel with him that I very much appreciate. But sharing this trip is also a milestone moment the impact of which I do not yet fully appreciate.
 
In an unrelated event - my niece has been featured today in a video clip on the Irish News website. She competed today in the international Irish dance competition. Just to qualify for an invitation is a great honor. You can see her at the end of the clip located at Irish News.
 
Perhaps I am not the only one who has reached a milestone this week.
 
3月16日

Chicago

I have spent two days in the Windy City, and my time here has been wonderful. Partly, that is due to the fact that Chicago is a large and beautiful metropolis, even on a cold winter day. Mostly it has been because of Marcus - my wonderful host.
 
After arriving in Chicago I checked into my hotel, the Marriott near Univeristy of Illinois' Rush Medical Center. The hotel has been nice, but not outstanding. It's one of Marriott's weaker properties. The chief draw for this location is the proximity to Marcus' new condo in a nearby neighborhood. The price was right also, especially when compared to the downtown hotels which are double the price of the hotel in the medical district.
 
Soon after unpacking, Marcus took me to meet friends who were visiting from San Francisco. We spent a short time together at Marcus' condo. Late in the afternoon we had dinner at a Mongolian style grill a short walk away. I rested at my hotel and then dressed for the evening. The core of our night was a date for the Chicago Symphony Orchestra in the beautiful and intimate Orchestra Hall across from the famous Art Institue of Chicago and nearby the new Millenium Park. Strauss, Saint Saens, and Debussey were on the program. It was a wonderful concert and we had terrific seats in the first tier. When the performance came to a close, we took a taxi back to Marcus' house and picked up his car  for a drive around the city to view the lights of the skyline. We ended the tour on North Halstead, the gay section of Chicago. A drink in Mini Bar was followed by a midnight breakfast at Clarke's Diner. I was home by 2am - a very late return for a 42 year old guy like me.
 
I slept fairly well at the hotel, waking at 10am ready to take in more of Chicago. Marcus took me on another driving tour of the city, covering some of the same territory as the previous night (Lakeshore Drive) but penetrating farther into the northern suburbs - especially Evanston, home to Northwestern University where Marcus received his MBA from the Kellogg School of Business. Then he treated me to a specatular brunch at the Signature Room located on the 95th floor of the John Hancock Building. We enjoyed the awesome view as well as a wide variety of cuisine presented in a vast buffet. By 3pm we were wandering the Magnificent Mile - Chicago's  downtown shopping district. There was a lot to see, and I especially enjoyed playing our own game of "Name that TV Theme Song" as we strolled among the upscale shops and historic skyscrapers crooning, humming, and laughing loudly. Needless to say I feel very relaxed with Marcus.
 
A short rest followed and included some TV and perhaps the greatest honor of the day was when Milo, Marcus' cat, was willing to snuggle on my belly while I scratched his head. Whew! I guess I passed the pussy cat approval test! The evening ended with Italian food in the suburb of Oak Park with Marcus' sister. It was a wonderful relaxed dinner full of conversation and excellent Italian food. Now I'm back at my hotel feeling full and satisfied - warm and complete.
 
The feelings I have after meeting Marcus face to face and spending an intense but enjoyable two days will remain in my heart and mind - but are not for this blog.  For the first time in a long time, I'm not willing to go into detail about my personal life. It must suffice for me to say I have wonderful memories about my short time in Chicago. I look forward to seeing Marcus again. The time and money spent coming to Chicago were well worth it. Taking a leap into the unknown has paid off. I really had no doubt that would be the case.
 
When one has the opportunity to form bonds with a high quality person, an excess of caution is not an ally. When nothing is ventured, then nothing is gained. I have gained a lot this weekend, and I think there will be more dividends paid in the future. After all, the greatest investment any man can make is in the time and care it takes to create, foster, and nurture relationships of mutual care and respect - no matter where that relationship might lead. An investment in that market never loses value.


3月14日

Taking Steps In a New Direction

I'm feeling excited and a little nervous. Tomorrow begins a significant weekend for me, and a step into the future with no guarantees and no simple answers.

For the last few months, I have been chatting on the phone with a very nice guy. His name is Marcus. He's my age, very intelligent, accomplished, very well educated, he has a good relationship with his family, we share important values in common, and he is very funny. What started as occasional online or phone chats has become daily hour long events in the last couple months. It's obvious we really get along and enjoy our interaction. But there is one small little tiny minuscule problem - he lives in Chicago.

Tomorrow I fly to the Windy City to meet Marcus. We've exchanged numerous pictures, and he reads this blog regularly. I've spoken with his friends and his sister on the phone. I even met a couple of his acquaintances who now live in Seattle. Their assignment? Check me out and determine if I am an actual living and breathing person, or a fake (I suspect I passed that test). One can definitely say Marcus is not a stranger. But, we have not met face to face and tomorrow's flight will put that problem to bed.

For our first date, Marcus and I are going to the Chicago Symphony on Saturday night. On Sunday he's going to show me around town and later we will have dinner with his sister and maybe some friends. It seems many people in Marcus' life now know, "John is coming to town." I will return to Seattle on Monday.

Though I am excited about meeting this terrific man, I'm also a little nervous. My last date was about 15 years ago, and it didn't take place 1,800 miles from home! My temporary home in Chicago will be a Marriott Hotel (my usual brand). But, something tells me being with Marcus and learning about his city will make me feel very comfortable. I trust my nervousness is about the new dating situation. God knows I can handle a new situation.

As I write this, my dogs are at the neighborhood boarding kennel and my bag is sitting on my bed packed with clothes appropriate for dinner and a concert, and appropriate enough to impress Marcus and his friends that I am not a slovenly pig!

Sometimes I think this weekend is a big leap, but perhaps not - and certainly not into the dark. Believe me, I have thought seriously about the problems and possibilities associated with dating long distance. The two of us have discussed them on more than a couple occasions. But I have been so impressed with Marcus - his charm, his laugh, his intellect (and his looks!), that meeting him face to face is an imperative which overrides other considerations.

I'm looking forward to a wonderful time. With Marcus' permission, I'll let you know how things go - and maybe even post a picture of the two of us at some wonderful Chicago locale! (you hear that Marcus?)






3月10日

Next?

My house was viewed on Saturday afternoon by a prospective buyer. Prior to arrival, the buyer's agent contacted my agent and asked if there had ever been a death inside my house? Apparently, the clients are originally from China and death inside the home would be bad luck. I passed on information that during my tenure, there had been no death within the house.

Today I received a nice note from the buyer's agent, and he said they liked the house but found the basement spaces too "chopped up." I can't say that i disagree. Definetly it is not an open and flowing floor plan in this house. After all, the house is more than 65 years old. Open floor plans were unheard of back then - especially in a basement.

The experience has reminded me that it's time to get moving on some updates so I can officially list this house in a couple months (May is my goal). My agent gave me a market analysis for my home, and after a couple readings I think my price expectations are reasonable. The big question is: How will the market behave in the next six months. Lucky for me, I'm in no rush. I don't have to move. If I can't make a reasonable deal in a reasonable amount of time,  I will just take the house off the market and stay.

It's time to get busy.



3月6日

Something Unusual

Five days ago, I was contacted by a real estate agent. He had seen my house listed on Zillow.com.

Zillow is a home valuation website which tracks the residential real estate market and gives owners an opportunity to see an estimate of their home's value based on the current market and information provided about home features from the tax assessor.

A couple years back, Gene updated Zillow's information about our home with more accurate data about improvements we had done which weren't reflected in tax assessor information. That included our remodeled kitchen, updated baths, new outdoor decks, garage addition, and an additional bedroom.

After Gene's death, when I first thought about moving in order to downsize my maintenance and mortgage costs, I activated a feature in Zillow called "Make Me Move." Basically, it says to those who view the value and features of my home, "Make me an offer, and I'll consider it - even if my home isn't currently on the market."

Well, five days ago the agent that contacted me via Zillow said he has clients who like my neighborhood and had driven by my home, and now they want to see inside. WOW! This is a rare occurrence - especially in the current market.

At first I was suspicious. Yet the agent said he had been working with the clients for 6 months. Also, I thought the name of the agent looked familiar. Turned out, he is a former member of the Seattle Men's Chorus and the two of us used to sing together in the chorus many years ago. He was a nice guy then, and I assume he still is. So, I contacted my agent whom I've used for many years and connected her with the agent wanting to bring his clients to look at my house. She looked into the situation and believed it was a legitimate client.

To wrap up the story, someone is coming to look at my house this Saturday. Though I doubt anything will come from the tour, wouldn't it be incredible luck if I did receive a reasonable offer? It's possible I could sell my home without ever having to go through the annoyance of listing, marketing, and having dozens of strangers tramp through my home during Sunday Open House showings.

We'll see what happens. I'm not holding my breath........well, maybe just a little.



3月1日

NEW! Hawaii Vacation Pics

I have posted just over 100 of the best pics from our recent vacation to Hawaii. Look in the upper left corner of this page. The pictures cover everything from takeoff to the luau on our final night. Thanks to Mom and Dad for most of the pictures.

Our trip ended with a luau at the Fairmont Orchid Hotel. Most of the pics weren't very clear, but below is a link to YouTube showing a highlight reel of the Gathering of the Kings Luau (produced by Island Breeze Productions). Though it wasn't the best luau I've been to it was still very good and the food was delicious. If the streaming quality of the video is poor, go here for a direct link.